Post & Pre-separation at Christmas

Posted: Thursday November 7 2019

By: Guest Blogger

Separation at any time of the year is not easy but Christmas time has to be quite possibly the most difficult time of the year for this very issue. Perhaps the well-known melody ‘it will be lonely this Christmas’ best captures the feeling of many who are approaching their first Christmas alone. Or does it?

‘It will be lonely this Christmas…’ Post & Pre-separation at Christmas

Separation at any time of the year is not easy but Christmas time has to be quite possibly the most difficult time of the year for this very issue. Perhaps the well-known melody ‘it will be lonely this Christmas’ best captures the feeling of many who are approaching their first Christmas alone. Or does it?

Certainly, the most recent statistics from the Office for National Statistics confirm that there are many families up and down the country, approaching their first Christmas post-separation. Between the period July to September 2017, 27,898 divorce petitions were issued within the Family Courts in England and Wales. Whilst there are many people approaching their first Christmas alone after they have made the ‘jump’ to separate there are arguably equally, if not more, individuals actively contemplating their ‘last Christmas’ together and planning their separation in the New Year. Of course the aforementioned statistics do not include couples who have chosen not to formalise their relationship through marriage.

It is unsurprising that tempers fray and arguments ensue given the emphasis and pressure that families place themselves under to have the ‘perfect day’ which by no means as a coincidence mainly falls to the matriarch of the family.  Coupled with visits from the in-laws, that most dread even at the best of times, it is unsurprising that tensions often boil over on the special day.